|where the light loves to touch your wings|
After months of feeling so stuck I could hardly breathe, the Universe is finally starting to give way. I knew May would be a good month and so far it is rockin’ my world with happy news in my home sector. Finally, our house hunt has come to and end and my boyfriend and I’ll be moving to new digs very soon! I’m not one to count my chickens before they are hatched, but I have full-faith that everything will go smoothly from here on out.
I’m not taking this as a moment of reprieve because I know there’s still work to be done. I’m hoping that this recent energetic opening will kick start things in the right direction. I’m happy to relish in the excitement of our new home (I’ve been bouncing off the walls all weekend), but that doesn’t mean I’m giving up looking for a new job or tackling some other major ideas of mine. If anything, it’s putting me head first into my search and giving me more of a reason to find balance in my day-to-day. I keep reminding myself “that which we give our energy to, we empower” so now, as the balls I’ve been juggling for so long start to land safely in place, I feel like I can focus on what’s coming next.
Here’s a few things that helped me get through it all…
If connection is key, then connecting to the earth and vital source is penultimate. Whenever I feel like it’s all too much, I try to find a quiet space to close my eyes, connect to my center and breathe to get grounded. Other things that help are walking barefoot in the grass, going for a long walk, kicking off my shoes and scrunching my toes against the floor, re-potting and tending to my plants, and sitting outside to let the wind blow through my hair. Sounds simple, but it works!
Talk it Out
I’m a major processor, which means if I don’t have someone to talk it out with I’ll just keep over-analyzing things until I make myself a bloody mess. What helps me is calling a friend, or my lovely therapist, and talking through the intense moments that I can’t handle on my own. It is in these talks that I recognize my emotions as just that, emotions, and nothing else. It’s okay to feel a certain way, but I know they do not make me who I am. Once I can identify what’s really going on, the whole situation starts to normalize and I find myself moving on and letting go.
Write it Out
This may seem like a no-brainer, but sometimes even for me picking up my journal is hard! I really love stream of consciousness writing. The practice is one of non-judgement and acceptance for every thought, feeling, word, and emotion that comes out of me. I can just write whatever I want and observe whatever comes up. I keep a journal on me at all times and when emotions run high I put them on paper. Once the pen is down, it’s all out there and I can close the book for a bit while I get on with the rest of my life. I can then come back to these feelings later without getting overwhelmed by them, ultimately giving myself space from the situation so it’s not consuming my every minute of my day.
It goes without saying that practice, and more specifically yoga practice, always helps. Moving, breathing, stretching….all of it is good for the body and helps release tension. But practice doesn’t always have to look like practice to be practice. Which means, if you feeling stuck, try a different class, teacher or routine to get yourself moving and motivated. I promise, you’ll feel better in no time.
I used to be intimidated by meditation. I didn’t understand it or how to do it and I always thought I was doing it wrong. Now, I very much look forward to it having grown in my practice over the years, especially with my recent 40 day meditation. Meditation helps to calm the mind and gain bearings on the situation at hand. You may or may not receive the answers you are looking for, but at the very least your making space for the answers to come!
I think it’s really important to jot down at least 5-10 things you are grateful for every day. This will help keep perspective on the big picture and to “not sweat the small stuff” so much. It’s amazing, when we take the time and get out of our own way, how much we can find to be grateful for. Today, I am grateful for the sunshine, the fresh air, the food I am eating, my friends and my family. See…wasn’t that easy? Tip: Make sure you do it with a smile!
Laugh a Little
When all else fails I just try and have a little fun. I like a good old fashioned dance party, sing-a-long type experience, but you may like something different. For me, the power of good vibrations cannot be denied! Whatever gets you going, go and do it. You may feel uncomfortable at first, especially if you’re really in a rut, but try to be present with whatever activity you choose and eventually you’ll find yourself relaxing and letting go.
What helps guide you through transitions? What activities help you find balance and release?
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